tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985768161142688419.post1490229975696978258..comments2014-09-17T10:03:51.336-04:00Comments on An Unfinished Project: Losing My MotherHLhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08208627838281984582noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985768161142688419.post-68433808351108653772014-09-17T10:03:51.336-04:002014-09-17T10:03:51.336-04:00Thank you Rose. It really is so hard to come to t...Thank you Rose. It really is so hard to come to terms with this. All we can do is take it day by day and be happy that our mothers are being taken care of and are safe. I will savor the time I spend with my mother, even if it is nothing like it used to be. My heart is with you too.HLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08208627838281984582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8985768161142688419.post-45584859749101055472014-09-14T14:54:14.430-04:002014-09-14T14:54:14.430-04:00I'm sorry you are so sad. My sisters and broth...I'm sorry you are so sad. My sisters and brothers have been watching our mom decline for years now. She has always been a healthy woman, still is, which prolongs her life as someone we still have to smile with, touch and love. We are all so glad she is still here with us (she has been in a nursing home for a long time now). She is well cared for and the staff where she lives take excellent care of her. They love her and enjoy her. She is still very social (she has days when she isn't easy to deal with). I can easily relate to how you are feeling. I often want to talk to her, ask her advice, ask her about things when she was a younger person, talk to her about family history. In my mind I often think "I'll ask mom, she'll know or remember". Then the realization that I can't "ask mom" it right there. It is sad. I don't get to visit her as much since I moved to NJ but my sisters still have Friday night dinner with her and post pictures on Facebook. All of us girls (her daughters) and my daughter, Catie, have gotten together on Friday nights for dinner. Its a tradition that started probably in the 80's. I'm glad they still continue the tradition. <br />Its very difficult to watch this happen to our loved one. Try to find some pleasure in still being able to see her, touch her, hug and kiss her, hold her hand, smell her. Its nice to just sit together and not say anything.<br />My heart is with you Helen. <br />Rose BehrAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com